What a REALLY man SHOULD be

I want to share for this week is what a man should really be. There are some vital things that a man should have that should not be compromise or non-negotiabe. These are things that can make a difference in our home and also in our society. I want to focus especially for those who are father or soon to be a father. As a man, these are the things that inspired me for this week.

A real man hands down SPIRITUAL LEGACY - these are the things that a man got through in life which someday they can look back at. These are sufferings or bad situation that have been successfully been undertaken by the grace of God. These things will someday become your strength in trouble or something to look back at and smile when you are in remorse. As a father, these are the things that will enable you to cope up with stress in the family and wisdom that you can later share to your children. The point in spiritual legacy is that, God empowers you to encounter those things, to set them as example in the coming years. –“Thus God ever done anything really special in your life”

 A real man earns RESPECT - have you ever encounter someone which can quiet a crowd when he passed by?-which are few in this generation that you can really be proud of. Those men gain respect through time. They emulate qualities such us respect. In there houses they command respect. Respect for women, such as treating them appropriately. Respect for others which they will never abuse. These are things that should be done consistently and with conviction. When these respected people showed up, a higher standard entered the scene.

A real man emulates MERCY and JUSTICE – these are people who help people who need help. Compassion should always be in the heart of a real man blended with a great sense for justice.

A real man is a man of STABILITY - these are people which you can count on. Consistency in there decision is a thing that they will never compromise. When you loss direction the best way is to go home. A home is a sign of your father’s stability, someplace you can go back to.

A real man has WISDOM – a wise man is man who has bee with God and knows what in His mind. Wisdom is the ability to apply truth to the issues of practical, day to day life. Wisdom is also called “sanctified common sense” which you can observe in our parents and grandparents.

Knowing that you can be a LEADER

“The true measure of leadership is influence-nothing more, nothing less”- John Maxwell, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership

I think influence is the thing that should be learned by everyone. Many people find there happiness when they are taking in-charge especially in work but others are happy supporting the decisions of other people. But regardless of this feelings we can safely conclude that many (if not all) feel that there feeling of significance are based on there contribution in the outcome of the things that they value most (things like their career, relationship and anything they set there mind into). Many times it is compromise because we need to be under by other people especially if we are in the bottom or middle of the organization. So I would like to share this things that hopefully inspire you to widen your horizon and change the way you influence your immediate superior.

Five Levels of Leadership- Developing the Leaders Within You

Position (Rights) - People follow because they have to.Influence doesn’t extend beyond the lines of your job description.- Most turnover is due to this (lower morale).

Permission (Relationship) - People follow because they want to. People follow beyond stated authority. This allows work to be fun. But staying too long on this level w/o rising will cause people with high motivation restless.

Production (Results) - People follow because of what you have done for the organization. Most people sensed success here. People liked you and what you are doing. Problems are fixed with very little effort because of momentum.

People Development (Reproduction) – People follow because of what you have done for them. Long range growth occurs here. Your commitment to developing leaders will ensure ongoing growth to the organization and to people. Do whatever you can to achieve and stay on this level.

Personhood (Respect) – People follow because of who you are and what you represent. This step is reserve for leaders who have spent years growing people and organizations. Few make it. Those who do are bigger than life. Only others can put you here. They do so because you have excelled in leading them from the first four levels for a long period of time.

I find it inspiring that even if I am not the manager or the owner of the company I can still influence the persons under me, above me and alongside with me.  Now I based my decisions to further improve my relationship with the people around me.

Hope you get inspired,

Godbless everyone