FACEBOOK REQUEST

Change your facebook profile picture to a cartoon from your childhood and invite your friends to do the same. Until Monday (Dec.6) there should be no human faces on facebook, but an invasion of memories. This is a movement to condemn the violence against children.

 

THANK YOU FRIENDS

If you Demand Trust, Reflect on your Character

Man 1: My wife and I went into an argument, eventually she became Historical

Man 2: Dude your wrong, That is called Hysterical

Man 1: No dude it’s Historical, She narrated all I done wrong in the past : )

“To build trust, a leader must exhibit competence, connection and character”- John Maxwell

Today I learned about character and what role it played in others that are depending on me. My realization is that, I’m a trustworthy person because people see my character. That is why I am now trying to decide and make choice that which I think is the best. I recently learn that we should always make our choice because if not, others may choose for us. These things are requirements for people to trust us. I think if we volunteer ourselves to be a leader of a project, the first thing people will see in us is the way we handle things (are we the kind of guy they can follow?). It is very important for people to see some opportunity that will show that they can respect and perceive us to be trustworthy. That is why we should always remember is that we should be consistent, emulate capacity to lead and demand respect at all times. Character shows even if we try to hide it, like being neat or being punctual or merely being polite.

It is important also to note that being a leader is not making the right decision all the time but having the willingness to apologize and make amends. The theory is that if we done many right things in the past then few wrong things will be forgiven easily (that is, if it is not big deals anyway) but trust is not given anymore to people that do so much wrong decisions.

Do you have a good character? Does people trust you very easily?

Adding Value to Others

“Are you making things better for the people who follow you?”- John Maxwell

Today I want to share why we should invest in others especially our followers (staff, subordinate, family members and friends). I like this topic because I was reminded that it should be my desire to always contribute something to others both my time and energy. Hope I will become someone which can gain leadership through investing to others. As for me, servitude should not be only for the general public but most especially for leaders.

The benefits we get from investing to others are we get satisfaction (fulfillment in leading them); rightly motivated in what we do as a leader; significant accomplishments; to help to develop a team of leaders and developing an attitude to serving the team.

I like also the perception “that we are not to strive to the most high or prominent place on our field but the best place we can serve the most.” I think if we can develop our leadership skills more we will be sooner or later be put to the position which we can contribute and serve the most.

  I would like to add some more guidelines and points to establish our servitude and contribution to others. These are things that should be taken to consideration for more effective leadership by serving others. First, is that we should intentionally help others that should be go hand in hand with leaders. Second, we “cannot give what we don’t have,” the thing we can add to others should come within us either skills, opportunities, wisdom or the combination of the three. Third, we serve better when we know what other people value most, either relationships, things, activities or whatever they mostly held in there hearts should be taken to consideration to make the service more meaningful. Lastly, we serve better knowing that there is someone looking after us and would like us to look after our brothers and sisters, that is making our service more purposely interesting and worthwhile especially for me.

What do you value most? Does your leader appreciate what you held dear? Or do you address your subordinates’ needs and appreciate the things they value most?  Does it help you somehow to learn that service is truly for us?

Change for the better

“Anyone can steer a ship , but it takes a leader to chart a course”

Today I learn that I should improve my detailing and rationalizing skills. It is one of my lowest leadership skills because I admit that I hate planning and looking in minor detail even if I am an accountant (sorry for me). The law of navigation expressly implied that if one wants to be a good leader he/she should set there planning a top priority. This means that people are counting on you to see more, sees farther and sees before others will. (Easily to be said than done) but I think it is worth it because I think you gain respect and trust from your followers.

These are the action plan that I commit to do. Decide for an activity, Setting up the goals of the activity, Set what are the essential and prioritize, Discuss this thing with concern persons ( key personnel ), make time for them to accept these things, do what I plan after wards, I’ll expect problems, but I’ll always point to the success and accomplishment and faithfully review the plan daily.

What you think of this? Do we both struggle with this? If yes what do you do about it? Please do write a comment.

God bless you and your family

A step worth taking

“Leadership is like investing – it compounds”

Today I learn that leadership is a life long process and a daily activity. The time to learn is now and I should always be a student which will always have to learn. I also learned that what distinguish a leader from there follower is there ability to develop and improve their skills.

Events in our life and our day to day routine as a leader can be a tool to clearly see our progression as a leader. Event encourages decision; motivate people, can bring issues which are temporary and challenges peoples. But our day to day routine as a leader can encourage development; making the people mature; affecting issue which can be permanent and it changes people.

I think both are difficult and essentially needed to quantify our leadership skills. But if we want to become a great leader we should expect to be a leader every moment of our life. Continually learning things and having an open mind to comprehend our life in different perspective is the key to become a great leader.

Godbless

Being influential where we are

“True leadership cannot be awarded, appointed or assigned. It comes only from influence, and that cannot be mandated. It must be earned. The only thing a title can buy is a little time – either to increase your level of influence with others or to undermine it.”

The leadership law of influence teaches me today that we can learn to lead by influencing our followers or people which we interact. Though positions or titles are opportunity to lead, we can still lead others even if we are not in the top by making ourselves influential in there decision in following us.

There are several factors that needed to be considered so that you can maximize your influence to others like your character, your relationship with them, your knowledge in the field, how well is your intuition, how experience you are, the past achievement you had and your current capabilities.

Why not challenge yourself to step up and become an influential leader for others? It will make your time worthwhile. Continue to learn and be effective to all ROLES you are doing. 

God bless everyone

Today I learn about the Law of the Lid

In the book, the author says that the level of your leadership will tell you the level of your effectiveness. If we have, let me say, a leadership level of one (1) out of ten (lowest), the effectiveness that we have is somewhat like that also. I think the more we become a leader the more effective we can be. Not only that but increasing our leadership skills will multiply the effectiveness we have in our church, family, work and other relationship thus making as more influential to others.

Godbless everyone

The Three-Level Technique (3LT)

“What people do cannot tell you enough. Not even how they do it. What is really important is why they do it.”

The 3LT is based on the premise that when people describe things, they give out different qualities of information. We have found it useful to distinguish three distinct level of informations: Facts, Meaning and Importance.

Facts – provides the major part of our communication. When people talk, they tell you what’s, when’s, and where’s about the subject, even if it is themselves. However, if we need to understand who is doing the talking, we need better quality information.

Meaning – crosses the boundary between external facts and internal feelings. It is about the meaning, interest or feelings about those facts to the individual concerned. It starts to tell you something about the person who is describing the facts.

Importance – When you received this information, you are getting a clear statement of one aspect of the person’s hilltop(perspective) position: what is important to that individual, why they value certain things, what they believe, etc.

The main point thing is to cast a non-judgemental eye over the drives we see in people, to identify strengths and limitations rather than right or wrongs. If you ask people questions and then judge their responses, you will very quickly close the conversation down. It is important to suspend making judgement to gather quality information that you may enable a more accurate and informed judgements later on.

Tools in Communication:

Listening – being a good listener means more than being able to repeat or even paraphrase what has been said. Good listeners are people who can pay attention to the messenger, not just the message. Good listening is achieved by giving absolute attention to the speaker. Good listeners are those who can look behind the words to the meaning and implications of what being said. When a person talks, he or she offers opportunities to understand them as individuals, not just the subject they are talking about. If you can retune your ears to listen for these different levels of information, people will describe themselves to you even in the most apparently mundane conversations.

Questioning – Some wear their values on their sleeves and find it difficult to hold a conversation without publicly declaring what they believe. 3LT can be used to spot opportunities to ask deeper-level questions. This is called permission points. It is usually a small throw away comments or little additions to the main body of Level 1 (FACT) information, example of this are, “….. and I found it quite interesting”, or “….and I think it’s important.”  What these permission points do is invite you to pick them up and ask a deeper question, for example, ‘What was it about it that interested you?’, or ‘Why do you think it is important?’

Hope manny pacquiao wins

Today will mark as the Filipino people celebrates Manny Pacquiao 8th Division Title

Hope he'll win
Godbless to all Filipino People

A Vision- Direction in Life

"Where there no is vision, the people perish" – Proverbs 29:18

This week I write about the role of the vision in our lives. Without vision we tend to bounce off and go in every direction. God wants us to be men and women of vision. We must not settle for what’s routine or safe. We must find our purpose and once we find it we should incorporate our vision with our purpose.   

If you are a leader and leading a group like your family, one quality of a leader is he/she is a visionary. If he/she has no vision the group especially in a family will make decisions that involve there own interest which is just human nature. But obviously, when everyone is going his or her own way, you’re not advancing anywhere significant.

Things to remember in creating a vision

We seek God’s purposes in our lives - God desires for our personal intimacy with Him, a relationship which may reveal His plan and purpose in our life. This thing can be achieve and not impossible to do.

Communicating your vision to your group -  as a leader or a visionary, we have the responsibility not only to initiate and finalize the vision but to have the vision be communicated and making sure that the vision is well understand and clear to each member.

Creating Steps to reaching your goals - being a visionary, we should always be aware that we are making an attainable vision. Making impossible vision will make the group frustrated and demoralized. I suggest a more positive approach in a situation “Difficult but not Impossible” saying.

Needing God in creating a vision – Faith and dependence on God is an out-most important in tackling a risk such a creating a vision. Knowing that you build your vision based on God’s purpose is a clear statement of our faith in Him.

Perspective about God in our vision - “small God, small vision; big God, big vision”

Building a group of accountable persons- an effective way to not lose track of your vision is having accountable partners or group to help us.

One way to know that you have the right vision is having a sense of significance, a passion which stirs your heart, a reason to get up each morning full of joy.

Things to Remember in Looking for a CAREER

Many books are published focusing in tips in finding a job you want. I prefer to advise though that this maybe effective. I am more concern in the finding of a career which will brought you happiness, dignity, peace and success.

What makes you motivated in the job? -  A simple yet very revealing question on a person which will find time listing the things that can motivate him/her to the job. Money, relationship and even dreams can be part of it. Making it more specific will be more appealing to oneself. It is effective also when choosing a course but I will tackle it more deeply maybe on succeeding blog. Remember also that it should be somehow align in your job so that you can maximize your time and effort.

 Thus your job matches your personality? – Remember that there are jobs which will require you to make an extra mile or bring you outside your comfort zone. A particular example of this is salesmen which should be out-going type of a person. But still inventory yourself well in as much as taking a risk because who knows it just yet to come out or hidden all along.

Do you ask others that can help? – There are many people willing to help you. You relatives, friends, school teachers, mentors and other people who can help you evaluate your skills, personalities and even your temperament in life. There are also ways you can choose from like personality test, EQ, IQ and more.

What a REALLY man SHOULD be

I want to share for this week is what a man should really be. There are some vital things that a man should have that should not be compromise or non-negotiabe. These are things that can make a difference in our home and also in our society. I want to focus especially for those who are father or soon to be a father. As a man, these are the things that inspired me for this week.

A real man hands down SPIRITUAL LEGACY - these are the things that a man got through in life which someday they can look back at. These are sufferings or bad situation that have been successfully been undertaken by the grace of God. These things will someday become your strength in trouble or something to look back at and smile when you are in remorse. As a father, these are the things that will enable you to cope up with stress in the family and wisdom that you can later share to your children. The point in spiritual legacy is that, God empowers you to encounter those things, to set them as example in the coming years. –“Thus God ever done anything really special in your life”

 A real man earns RESPECT - have you ever encounter someone which can quiet a crowd when he passed by?-which are few in this generation that you can really be proud of. Those men gain respect through time. They emulate qualities such us respect. In there houses they command respect. Respect for women, such as treating them appropriately. Respect for others which they will never abuse. These are things that should be done consistently and with conviction. When these respected people showed up, a higher standard entered the scene.

A real man emulates MERCY and JUSTICE – these are people who help people who need help. Compassion should always be in the heart of a real man blended with a great sense for justice.

A real man is a man of STABILITY - these are people which you can count on. Consistency in there decision is a thing that they will never compromise. When you loss direction the best way is to go home. A home is a sign of your father’s stability, someplace you can go back to.

A real man has WISDOM – a wise man is man who has bee with God and knows what in His mind. Wisdom is the ability to apply truth to the issues of practical, day to day life. Wisdom is also called “sanctified common sense” which you can observe in our parents and grandparents.

Knowing that you can be a LEADER

“The true measure of leadership is influence-nothing more, nothing less”- John Maxwell, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership

I think influence is the thing that should be learned by everyone. Many people find there happiness when they are taking in-charge especially in work but others are happy supporting the decisions of other people. But regardless of this feelings we can safely conclude that many (if not all) feel that there feeling of significance are based on there contribution in the outcome of the things that they value most (things like their career, relationship and anything they set there mind into). Many times it is compromise because we need to be under by other people especially if we are in the bottom or middle of the organization. So I would like to share this things that hopefully inspire you to widen your horizon and change the way you influence your immediate superior.

Five Levels of Leadership- Developing the Leaders Within You

Position (Rights) - People follow because they have to.Influence doesn’t extend beyond the lines of your job description.- Most turnover is due to this (lower morale).

Permission (Relationship) - People follow because they want to. People follow beyond stated authority. This allows work to be fun. But staying too long on this level w/o rising will cause people with high motivation restless.

Production (Results) - People follow because of what you have done for the organization. Most people sensed success here. People liked you and what you are doing. Problems are fixed with very little effort because of momentum.

People Development (Reproduction) – People follow because of what you have done for them. Long range growth occurs here. Your commitment to developing leaders will ensure ongoing growth to the organization and to people. Do whatever you can to achieve and stay on this level.

Personhood (Respect) – People follow because of who you are and what you represent. This step is reserve for leaders who have spent years growing people and organizations. Few make it. Those who do are bigger than life. Only others can put you here. They do so because you have excelled in leading them from the first four levels for a long period of time.

I find it inspiring that even if I am not the manager or the owner of the company I can still influence the persons under me, above me and alongside with me.  Now I based my decisions to further improve my relationship with the people around me.

Hope you get inspired,

Godbless everyone

Something that I missed along the way

"That what you say and what you mean are the same. What you promise, you always intend to keep it. What things you say - is what exactly what you plan to do". The best definition I read so far.

This morning I learned about integrity in the life of Daniel. Daniel, which was thrown to the lion’s den because he cannot compromise God in his life showed me the true meaning of integrity.

This is a situation where I saw my self compromising and making excuses in my life. I always thought that compromising is good and everybody is doing it. But God showed me this day that life is to live with integrity. Reputation and integrity is very different. Reputation are the things that others see in your life but integrity was something deep in you. A man with integrity will always be trusted and can be successful in life because God is with him and God delights in him.

How to maintain a life of integrity

change NOW – Don’t wait for situation to get better before you change. Don’t blame others in the level of integrity you have now. It is a change inside of yourself regardless of your condition outside.

ADVANCE planning- set the things that you will not compromise with. This is helpful because when you face this kind of problem you know what things are not for you to compromise. These are the things that will make you dependable in life. You can’t become men of integrity on the spot.

DEVELOP devotional life – God should be the rule not the exception. God should be the source of our integrity. We should live according to His example. Constant communication with Him is the key for the path of integrity.

find ACCOUNTABLE friends – Friends that will ask you the hard questions. Friends that will ask you what you are doing and what you are not doing. This I will write in depth on my following blogs.

REMEMBER to focus on God and not in our circumstances – if we always look in our circumstances rather than what God is doing in our lives we will not be extraordinary. God use circumstances to develop and make us extraordinary. He is using us in His purpose in this world. Now that is worth remembering.

Godbless everyone