Do you want the people around you?

“Who you attract is not determined by what you want. It is determined by who you are.”- John Maxwell

Today I learned that I attract people which have the same perspective and attitude with me. I have difficulty in writing this and spent much time with it. At first I don’t approve the concept because I can list many attitudes and traits that my friends have that I don’t have or I have that they don’t have.

But as continue to reflect about it the more I can clearly understand it and the more I can relate to people I attract. I have leadership skills that are lower than most leaders but that did not stop me from adding value to others. I read books and have the passion to impart it with my friends in every way I can that I can inspire and empower them.

One of the best ways to explain this law of magnetism is to reflect on most of the companies on the countries. Thus the company employ people who have the same values, background, generation, giftedness and leadership ability? Chances are that this company are looking for the people which can easily adapt and contribute to the company’s system.

The question now is that - Do you attract the people you likely to attract or if not do you want to change so that you can lead people which you would like to attract in the near future?

Lauro Visconde- Justice Serve?

Today was a memorable time  for Webb, Visconde, Nicholas and the other families that had been waiting for the decision of the supreme court. Finally after years of struggle the Supreme court announce the decision of the Visconde massacre case happened 19 years ago. I do empathize the situation of Mr. Visconde now that the Supreme Court has acquit the suspected murderers of his family. I further pray that someday the justice he long sought will be truly be given to him by God.

May God continue to guide the Philippines for Peace, Justice and Freedom

Insurance Scam I watch and experience

An Interruption from leadership segment because I like to share what I watch last night in XXX (a program of abs-cbn) which featured an insurance company scam. This scam had been experience first-hand by my former girlfriend and me in one of the malls in the Philippines. The scam start with one staff of the company which will approach a prospected client promising some coupon and prizes which will be given upon accomplishing some forms. Later, they will lead you to there office in a corner of the mall which you will be meet by other staff and helping you become comfortable. Once you are comfortable they will lead you inside there office. There you will be entertained by an insurance agent who will give you history and benefits of joining there company. In the end of the conversation the agent will then literally push you to swipe your atm or credit card in there tellers booth to know if you are qualified for the plans. Additionally, I watched in the XXX that the woman who appeal in the program has automatically been enrolled in the policy which she regretfully and angrily appealing with the agent but failed to be acted upon.

Personally, I don’t think people should undergo such circumstances because of the time they are wasting and the treatment they are getting after wards. Thankfully, I don’t have that kind of money in my atm when I was being interviewed (half was withdrawn previously). I also check my outstanding balance after we went out of that company. Personally, I think this scam is very conceited it was a waste of time for the person who is being scam and had no intention to enroll in an insurance plan.

Hopefully after reporting this to the insurance commission the scam will be watched and monitored by both government and private sectors.

Intuition and what it play in our leadership role

 

“Good Leaders rarely think in terms of boundaries; instead, they think in terms of opportunities. They are initiators”  - John Maxwell, the 360’ Leader

Today I learned about informed intuition. The topic is different and hard to discuss because of the intangible qualities of having an intuition in leading. I think being a leader should always strive to balance between intuition as well as facts. This is because the primary role of a leader is still seeing the future as far as years or decades of the company. Combining intuition and facts or data are called informed intuition. This is very useful in successful leading because the leader will eventually depend on it in times of setting up vision as a direction of the company. Few people can balance these two distinct and often conflicting things so one advice I can give is having 40-60% of the facts and the remaining should be a mix of past experience plus rate of opportunity for gain.

Personally I experience this when I am in a project. There are times when facts are not enough in doing a unique and desirable result. I personally put the things in different perspective so that issues can be address and conflict be detected. There are instances which meetings are unsuccessful because some issues were not tackled or have been given proper attention.

But as a leader there are times that you are the only one seeing the problem from the top or having the privilege to grasp the whole issue. Intuition can be learned especially if you dedicate time and energy to enhance informative intuition.

Do you experience things that you think are right and should be doing? Are you eager to follow what you feel is right even if the facts are in different direction?

FACEBOOK REQUEST

Change your facebook profile picture to a cartoon from your childhood and invite your friends to do the same. Until Monday (Dec.6) there should be no human faces on facebook, but an invasion of memories. This is a movement to condemn the violence against children.

 

THANK YOU FRIENDS

If you Demand Trust, Reflect on your Character

Man 1: My wife and I went into an argument, eventually she became Historical

Man 2: Dude your wrong, That is called Hysterical

Man 1: No dude it’s Historical, She narrated all I done wrong in the past : )

“To build trust, a leader must exhibit competence, connection and character”- John Maxwell

Today I learned about character and what role it played in others that are depending on me. My realization is that, I’m a trustworthy person because people see my character. That is why I am now trying to decide and make choice that which I think is the best. I recently learn that we should always make our choice because if not, others may choose for us. These things are requirements for people to trust us. I think if we volunteer ourselves to be a leader of a project, the first thing people will see in us is the way we handle things (are we the kind of guy they can follow?). It is very important for people to see some opportunity that will show that they can respect and perceive us to be trustworthy. That is why we should always remember is that we should be consistent, emulate capacity to lead and demand respect at all times. Character shows even if we try to hide it, like being neat or being punctual or merely being polite.

It is important also to note that being a leader is not making the right decision all the time but having the willingness to apologize and make amends. The theory is that if we done many right things in the past then few wrong things will be forgiven easily (that is, if it is not big deals anyway) but trust is not given anymore to people that do so much wrong decisions.

Do you have a good character? Does people trust you very easily?

Adding Value to Others

“Are you making things better for the people who follow you?”- John Maxwell

Today I want to share why we should invest in others especially our followers (staff, subordinate, family members and friends). I like this topic because I was reminded that it should be my desire to always contribute something to others both my time and energy. Hope I will become someone which can gain leadership through investing to others. As for me, servitude should not be only for the general public but most especially for leaders.

The benefits we get from investing to others are we get satisfaction (fulfillment in leading them); rightly motivated in what we do as a leader; significant accomplishments; to help to develop a team of leaders and developing an attitude to serving the team.

I like also the perception “that we are not to strive to the most high or prominent place on our field but the best place we can serve the most.” I think if we can develop our leadership skills more we will be sooner or later be put to the position which we can contribute and serve the most.

  I would like to add some more guidelines and points to establish our servitude and contribution to others. These are things that should be taken to consideration for more effective leadership by serving others. First, is that we should intentionally help others that should be go hand in hand with leaders. Second, we “cannot give what we don’t have,” the thing we can add to others should come within us either skills, opportunities, wisdom or the combination of the three. Third, we serve better when we know what other people value most, either relationships, things, activities or whatever they mostly held in there hearts should be taken to consideration to make the service more meaningful. Lastly, we serve better knowing that there is someone looking after us and would like us to look after our brothers and sisters, that is making our service more purposely interesting and worthwhile especially for me.

What do you value most? Does your leader appreciate what you held dear? Or do you address your subordinates’ needs and appreciate the things they value most?  Does it help you somehow to learn that service is truly for us?

Change for the better

“Anyone can steer a ship , but it takes a leader to chart a course”

Today I learn that I should improve my detailing and rationalizing skills. It is one of my lowest leadership skills because I admit that I hate planning and looking in minor detail even if I am an accountant (sorry for me). The law of navigation expressly implied that if one wants to be a good leader he/she should set there planning a top priority. This means that people are counting on you to see more, sees farther and sees before others will. (Easily to be said than done) but I think it is worth it because I think you gain respect and trust from your followers.

These are the action plan that I commit to do. Decide for an activity, Setting up the goals of the activity, Set what are the essential and prioritize, Discuss this thing with concern persons ( key personnel ), make time for them to accept these things, do what I plan after wards, I’ll expect problems, but I’ll always point to the success and accomplishment and faithfully review the plan daily.

What you think of this? Do we both struggle with this? If yes what do you do about it? Please do write a comment.

God bless you and your family

A step worth taking

“Leadership is like investing – it compounds”

Today I learn that leadership is a life long process and a daily activity. The time to learn is now and I should always be a student which will always have to learn. I also learned that what distinguish a leader from there follower is there ability to develop and improve their skills.

Events in our life and our day to day routine as a leader can be a tool to clearly see our progression as a leader. Event encourages decision; motivate people, can bring issues which are temporary and challenges peoples. But our day to day routine as a leader can encourage development; making the people mature; affecting issue which can be permanent and it changes people.

I think both are difficult and essentially needed to quantify our leadership skills. But if we want to become a great leader we should expect to be a leader every moment of our life. Continually learning things and having an open mind to comprehend our life in different perspective is the key to become a great leader.

Godbless

Being influential where we are

“True leadership cannot be awarded, appointed or assigned. It comes only from influence, and that cannot be mandated. It must be earned. The only thing a title can buy is a little time – either to increase your level of influence with others or to undermine it.”

The leadership law of influence teaches me today that we can learn to lead by influencing our followers or people which we interact. Though positions or titles are opportunity to lead, we can still lead others even if we are not in the top by making ourselves influential in there decision in following us.

There are several factors that needed to be considered so that you can maximize your influence to others like your character, your relationship with them, your knowledge in the field, how well is your intuition, how experience you are, the past achievement you had and your current capabilities.

Why not challenge yourself to step up and become an influential leader for others? It will make your time worthwhile. Continue to learn and be effective to all ROLES you are doing. 

God bless everyone

Today I learn about the Law of the Lid

In the book, the author says that the level of your leadership will tell you the level of your effectiveness. If we have, let me say, a leadership level of one (1) out of ten (lowest), the effectiveness that we have is somewhat like that also. I think the more we become a leader the more effective we can be. Not only that but increasing our leadership skills will multiply the effectiveness we have in our church, family, work and other relationship thus making as more influential to others.

Godbless everyone

The Three-Level Technique (3LT)

“What people do cannot tell you enough. Not even how they do it. What is really important is why they do it.”

The 3LT is based on the premise that when people describe things, they give out different qualities of information. We have found it useful to distinguish three distinct level of informations: Facts, Meaning and Importance.

Facts – provides the major part of our communication. When people talk, they tell you what’s, when’s, and where’s about the subject, even if it is themselves. However, if we need to understand who is doing the talking, we need better quality information.

Meaning – crosses the boundary between external facts and internal feelings. It is about the meaning, interest or feelings about those facts to the individual concerned. It starts to tell you something about the person who is describing the facts.

Importance – When you received this information, you are getting a clear statement of one aspect of the person’s hilltop(perspective) position: what is important to that individual, why they value certain things, what they believe, etc.

The main point thing is to cast a non-judgemental eye over the drives we see in people, to identify strengths and limitations rather than right or wrongs. If you ask people questions and then judge their responses, you will very quickly close the conversation down. It is important to suspend making judgement to gather quality information that you may enable a more accurate and informed judgements later on.

Tools in Communication:

Listening – being a good listener means more than being able to repeat or even paraphrase what has been said. Good listeners are people who can pay attention to the messenger, not just the message. Good listening is achieved by giving absolute attention to the speaker. Good listeners are those who can look behind the words to the meaning and implications of what being said. When a person talks, he or she offers opportunities to understand them as individuals, not just the subject they are talking about. If you can retune your ears to listen for these different levels of information, people will describe themselves to you even in the most apparently mundane conversations.

Questioning – Some wear their values on their sleeves and find it difficult to hold a conversation without publicly declaring what they believe. 3LT can be used to spot opportunities to ask deeper-level questions. This is called permission points. It is usually a small throw away comments or little additions to the main body of Level 1 (FACT) information, example of this are, “….. and I found it quite interesting”, or “….and I think it’s important.”  What these permission points do is invite you to pick them up and ask a deeper question, for example, ‘What was it about it that interested you?’, or ‘Why do you think it is important?’

Hope manny pacquiao wins

Today will mark as the Filipino people celebrates Manny Pacquiao 8th Division Title

Hope he'll win
Godbless to all Filipino People

A Vision- Direction in Life

"Where there no is vision, the people perish" – Proverbs 29:18

This week I write about the role of the vision in our lives. Without vision we tend to bounce off and go in every direction. God wants us to be men and women of vision. We must not settle for what’s routine or safe. We must find our purpose and once we find it we should incorporate our vision with our purpose.   

If you are a leader and leading a group like your family, one quality of a leader is he/she is a visionary. If he/she has no vision the group especially in a family will make decisions that involve there own interest which is just human nature. But obviously, when everyone is going his or her own way, you’re not advancing anywhere significant.

Things to remember in creating a vision

We seek God’s purposes in our lives - God desires for our personal intimacy with Him, a relationship which may reveal His plan and purpose in our life. This thing can be achieve and not impossible to do.

Communicating your vision to your group -  as a leader or a visionary, we have the responsibility not only to initiate and finalize the vision but to have the vision be communicated and making sure that the vision is well understand and clear to each member.

Creating Steps to reaching your goals - being a visionary, we should always be aware that we are making an attainable vision. Making impossible vision will make the group frustrated and demoralized. I suggest a more positive approach in a situation “Difficult but not Impossible” saying.

Needing God in creating a vision – Faith and dependence on God is an out-most important in tackling a risk such a creating a vision. Knowing that you build your vision based on God’s purpose is a clear statement of our faith in Him.

Perspective about God in our vision - “small God, small vision; big God, big vision”

Building a group of accountable persons- an effective way to not lose track of your vision is having accountable partners or group to help us.

One way to know that you have the right vision is having a sense of significance, a passion which stirs your heart, a reason to get up each morning full of joy.